In my last blog I discussed how it is far better to turn our thoughts away from what we DON’T WANT and focus more each day on what we WANT.
Try being aware of our habitual self-talk. We all do it. All the time. What were you thinking first thing this morning? Usually we see the day ahead with an imaginary list of things to do, places to go, people to see. But what are we saying to ourselves?
Quite often we beat ourselves up mentally. We criticize what we haven’t done, or what we SHOULD have done on that imaginary list. We frown to ourselves and fret about our bodies, our bad habits. We focus on what’s wrong rather than what’s right.
We focus on the LACKS in our lives. Perhaps the material lacks; we’d like a home of our own, a new car, a vacation. Maybe our relationships are in lack. Can’t seem to meet Mr or Mrs Right; or the one we have is … sadly lacking. Our family relationships are messed up and we hate our mother/father/sister/brother or that idiot brother-in-law. That person at work you have to deal with every day is a moron and you could do your bosses job far better than them. Now the traffic is at a standstill and you’re late. You think WHY are there so many fools on the road; if only they’d get out of your way. If only the world would get out of your way. grrrrrhhhh!
HOLD ON A MINUTE. If you do recognize any of the above thoughts – or reflect on your own lack perspective, it’s YOU who are in YOUR OWN WAY. Can’t seem to get ahead?
You need to get out of your own way. YOU are blocking your own abundance by this habitual mind-set of lack.
Let’s think about what we CAN DO to recalibrate this negative and damaging (to yourself), mind-set.
For a starters, in the moments after waking and before placing your feet on the ground you COULD say. ‘Thank you for this beautiful day’. Even if this is what you DON’T THINK or FEEL, I want you to give it a go. Remember, giving GRATITUDE and SENDING LOVE FORWARD, are simple ways to raise our energy and vibrational levels. This is the whole thing i’m getting at and the reason for this blog.
Take another moment to practice a couple of deep breaths. As you pass the bathroom mirror, remind yourself you are wonderful and loved. Smile and relax as best as you can.
Listen, I ABSOLUTELY know that changing our everyday habits feels weird to begin with, but with persistent practice, you WILL get there. I had to do it myself some time ago. Yes, it was an effort. I didn’t have overnight success. Nobody does. But gradually, and with persistence, I have developed a habit of controlling my thoughts. ALL the time? No, of course not. I’m human! But I’m trying to say for the MOST part I do try to focus on what i WANT, rather than what I DON’T WANT.
And critically, I do try to bring myself to the NOW when I feel my thoughts drift to what SHOULD be or what I haven’t done and should do, and so on.
Yesterday morning I got myself into a bit of a tizzy. I had SO much to do that I didn’t want to do any of it! Do you ever get that feeling?!
So what did I do? I recognized that if I continued thinking about what I DIDN’T want, my day was going to spiral out of my own control. I began by Sending Love to the situation. Yes, I Send Love to situations as well as people! It’s VIBRATION after all, remember? I told myself, ‘I am loved’ and I smiled in the mirror. In fact I had a little laugh to myself as I often do because life’s so bloody ridiculous sometimes isn’t it?
Anyhow, I had a little chat with my SUBCONSCIOUS MIND. Do you recall that I have told you that our super powerful SUBCONSCIOUS (or INNER MIND), KNOWS EVERYTHING about us personally & can help us with ANYTHING we ‘ALLOW’ it to? So I said something like, ‘Mind, I have SO much to do today. and I need your help in getting through. I’d like everything to run smoothly if you can help’. After each ‘tick off my mental list’, I would THANK ‘mind’. I had a safe travel, I encountered pleasant folk on my errands – ALWAYS a good sign we are going ‘with the flow’ by the way! My son showed up to help with a couple of heavy chores. The kids returned from school in good moods & my visitors turned up looking forward to the great meal I’d produced. There was food enough for NINE people; even the two extra visitors (my 19yr old and his hungry pal). We arrived at 7th Grader’s musical on time and what a wonderful evening.
I MADE it! And so can ALL OF YOU! I’m going to share with you more of how we can use the immense power of our SUBCONSCIOUS MINDS in each and every aspect of our lives.
And by the way whatever our mind-set – our SUBCONSCIOUS MIND accommodates ALL our wants, desires and EXPECTATIONS. Whether we want them or not.
Sending Love Forward to each and every one of you. Please Send Love Forward. THOUGHTS ARE THINGS my darlings. Think about what you WANT. Thank you.